Avoid Making the Top Mistakes in a Divorce
Divorce can be a very emotional experience, but it is also a legal process. It is important that you keep this in mind while you navigate the waters of divorce. Some mistakes made during the process could have a devastating effect on your divorce settlement and may indeed impact your family’s life in the future. Make your divorce as easy as possible by avoiding these mistakes.
Saying Too Much
Divorce can take its toll on your attitude and some of the problems that occur can cause you to get angry. Anger and irritation are normal reactions, especially if the divorce has become acrimonious. While these emotions are certainly understandable, it is important to keep them in check. Avoid the temptation to vent on social media sites like Facebook or Twitter or in emails. Once you put it out there it cannot be taken back and it could actually be used against you in court.
Fighting with your partner can only lead to disastrous results. Verbal arguments are never pretty and you could end up saying something you don’t mean. Arguments can even lead to domestic violence, especially if there were problems of this nature in the past. Also, fighting in front of the children can be destructive to them and can lead to long-term emotional stress and scarring.
Alienating the Children
Children are not part of your problems, but they can get stuck in the middle. When children are forced to take sides with one parent over another the situation can have a negative impact on them. Further, they may come to resent or alienate one or even both parents after an ugly divorce.
All too often, one spouse is not ready for a divorce when the other one is. A nasty divorce can ensue and one party may even seek revenge on the other. If one party has seemingly moved on more quickly than expected, the other spouse can become hurt and may try to make the divorce more difficult. Keep in mind that a difficult divorce punishes all members of the family, even you and the children. As much as it may upset you, it is best for everyone’s sake that you take the high road to keep your divorce on track.
Turning to Drugs or Alcohol
Although you are going through a difficult time, no good will come from the overuse of alcohol or drugs. In fact, using these crutches can actually hurt you in a custody battle. Don’t give your spouse something that he or she can use against you in a divorce fight. If you have a history of drug or alcohol abuse talk to your attorney about getting tested voluntarily, something that can help you to maintain your parental rights during and after your marriage ends.
If you are going through a divorce it is wise to seek guidance from an experienced attorney. Your lawyer will review your situation, answer your questions, and help to keep you grounded during the process to make it as stress-free as possible. Contact the Tampa divorce attorneys and family law lawyers at All Family Law Group, P.A. in Tampa Bay at 813-816-2232 for a consultation at no charge or email us.
By Lynette Silon-Laguna Google+